Insights From Song of Solomon – Discovering Your Identity in God

I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me. – Song of Solomon 7:10

The Church is in the midst of an identity crisis. Many believers are searching to find their Identityidentity, who God has called them to be. This search includes identifying their spiritual gifts, their calling and destiny in Him – what exactly He wants them to do. I too went through this confusing and frustrating phase. Many voices say we should know these things, but none I found explained how to discover them.  Maybe this has been true for you, too, or for someone you know.

In Song of Solomon, God reveals how to discover who He has called us to be, and what He has called us to do as His beloved children. Throughout the Song, King Solomon (who represents Jesus) showers his bride with words of affirmation and validation. These are two basic needs God created us with that must be fulfilled. Only God can provide these; if we don’t receive our unique significance from Him, we will find it in ungodly ways – through relationships, accomplishments, materialism, position, ministry, etc. These needs MUST be met.

The more he affirms her, the more she blossoms before him; this is the power of love and acceptance to totally transform us. She first sees herself as “dark, yet lovely,” (1:5). She is somewhat aware of her underlying value, but more focused on the darkness that covers it. She then sees herself as “a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valley” (2:1) While this is a small step up, these flowers  were common to the region, so she sees herself as one of many, but not unique or special. In Ch. 4:16, she first sees herself as a garden then realizes she is his garden. This is definite progress!

Then in Ch. 7:10 she says, “I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.”  She now knows her identity; she is his beloved, belonging to him for his purposes and pleasure. She is his inheritance. (Eph. 1:18) The apostle John called himself, “the disciple whom Jesus loved.”  Paul wrote, “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.” (1 Cor. 6:19-20) When we receive this revelation, our lives will no longer be about getting or doing what we want, but doing what He wants, and going where He sends us. His agenda will be our agenda; His desires, our desires.

As he affirms her, the revelation of His nature and character leads her to discover her identity and destiny. When Jesus asked His disciples, “Who do you say I am?” Peter received the revelation that He was the Messiah. Jesus then shared Peter’s identity, destiny and calling, saying, “And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it. I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” (Matt 16:18) Peter means “rock,” and Jesus said that this revelation of who Jesus is would be the foundation for His Church that Hades could not overcome. Jesus then called him to intercede to bring heaven to earth, just as He would teach them to pray later (Matt. 6:10).

As we seek the revelation knowledge of God, we will discover who He is and who He has called us to be. We too, are His beloved, called to love and be loved by Him and out of the overflow of that love, to partner with Him to bring the kingdom of heaven to earth. That is His eternal plan and purpose!


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Author Charlene Hughes - Lover of Jesus, wife, mother, author, founder of Restoration A.C.T.S., and Young Living Executive Leader/Distributor

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