We human beings are very resistant to change. Have you ever noticed this about yourself or about others? We will come up with a host of excuses why we shouldn’t (or can’t) change, or go through a myriad of negative emotions when change occurs that is outside of our control. It seems it is one of the most difficult things for us to do without dread, fear, reluctance, hesitation, complaining, etc. It seems innately ingrained in us that we do not want to change. I admit I don’t like it. For one, it is difficult. Old habits die hard. The longer the habit, the harder it is to break it. It doesn’t matter if the habit is as simple as our morning routine, or as difficult as changing jobs or moving away from home.
During my years in ministry, I often encountered this resistance in people who said they were desperate to be free. One lady told me on the phone she had battled depression for over 20 years and tearfully said she was desperate to be free from this torment. But during our 2nd or 3 session, when I challenged an ungodly belief (lie) she had about being a victim, and asked her to break agreement with it, and receive the truth that Jesus had paid for her healing, she refused, saying she could not believe that. The reality was she wouldn’t believe it, because it required her to change her way of thinking about and seeing herself. Believing is always a choice, and we have the freedom to choose what we do or don’t believe. She left that day, still in bondage to the depression because she refused to change.
I see the same type of behavior when teaching others about the importance of taking care of your health, using non-toxic products whenever possible, changing diet, exercise, reducing stress, etc. Changing one’s diet, or starting an exercise regimen is no easy matter when it’s been neglected for years. Until they get the diagnosis from the doctor – they have cancer, or heart disease, or diabetes, or they just stay sick, run down, and lethargic most of the time. Then they might be wiling to try something different. But why does it take such drastic circumstances to get us to change?
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, but expecting different results.” We hear that and chuckle, but so many people actually live this way! My favorite question to ask people, and I’ve been asking it for years, when I recognize their resistance to change, is, “So, how’s that been working for you?” Most people will acknowledge it hasn’t, but so many still refuse to change. Our resistance to change, I believe, is because we are living in denial, and many are deceived into thinking they are not.
Yes, change is difficult and often painful, but the consequences of refusing to change are even worse. God will help us, if we are willing. What seems impossible for us can be possible when we cooperate with Him each day. I have found that when I embrace the need and willingness to change, it is seldom as awful as I think it will be. Too often, our imaginations get the best of us and sabotage our efforts before we even get started. Change is inevitable. We can choose to do it willingly and make it easier, or we can be drug along, kicking and screaming. I’ve done it both ways, and have decided it is best to embrace changes. What about you?